About
Why 10PM Somewhere Exists
Practical, honest support for adults caring for aging parents—built for the moments when the paperwork is endless, the group text is useless, and you still need answers.
Our Story
From Latchkey Kids to Caregiver TrencheS
We’ve been exactly like this since we were kids.
We grew up poor -wrong side of the tracks kind of poor – where people openly told us we wouldn’t amount to anything.
After divorce, we watched our dad work multiple jobs and our mom scrimp, save, and fight a rigged gender system to put herself through school at 40 years old.
Both of them doing it just to give us opportunities.
Our dad passed a couple years ago and we have a lot of regrets on things we didn’t do.
Our mom has always loved making memories and going on vacations. She saved and scrimped when we were kids to make that happen for us.
When her Social Security couldn’t cover real life after retirement, she moved in with Shannan. Then came the medical plot twists: a stroke, and a weird home dynamic where Shannan felt gaslit into thinking she was the problem. It took a therapist, a temporary relocation during a home renovation, communion with T-swifts song lyrics, and a neurologist to finally uncover the truth: It wasn’t Shannan. It was Mom – and an Alzheimer’s diagnosis.
The second the diagnosis hit, Alexa didn’t hesitate – she sold her house and moved right in.We linked arms, combined our corporate and academic weapons, and rallied around Mom to keep her in her own space.
If Shannan’s sarcasm and psychological de-escalation tactics don’t work on the system, she’s right there shoulder-to-shoulder, scrapping side-by-side with Alexa.
We aren’t here to lecture you from a pedestal or pretend we have it all figured out. We’re just two self-made sisters using brain science, HR reality, and unapologetic humor to survive our own daily circus as we navigate medical mayhem, patient portal purgatory, and the sibling circus and hopefully fund a few more vacations and memories with our mom while we still can.
The PHD
Meet Shannan
Also known as “The Instigator”
The OG
Meet Alexa
Also known as “The Troublemaker”
Who this is for
It’s 10 PM Somewhere speaks to the many versions of the same exhausted person: the daughter on hold with insurance, the son sorting pills after work, the sibling doing the invisible labor nobody sees, and the one quietly trying not to disappear in the middle of it all.
The one comparing notes, asking better questions, and trying to understand what the doctor actually meant.
The one building the binder, tracking the appointments, and holding the whole operation together with sheer will.
The one managing sibling group chats, parent resistance, and every emotionally loaded decision nobody wants to make.
The one doing it anyway – on fumes, caffeine, and a level of patience that expired days ago.
“We didn’t read about this in a textbook. We’re living it – and we’re building the resources we couldn’t find when we needed it most.”
– Alexa & Shannan
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DON’T DO THIS ALONE AT 2AM
We’ll send the honest stuff, the things we figure out, and the occasional permission to scream into a pillow. The only group chat where nobody says “cherish every moment.”